By Ruth Hansen I’ve spent the last few years reading and thinking and writing a lot about how stigma works in society. Those excuses you hear about why it’s sad, but “not my problem” that kids at the border are getting locked up? That’s the result of thinking about “those people” — the parents and … Continue reading “Those People”
By Ruth Hansen Elections are over, it’s cold, and Americans are transitioning federal administrations. Newly elected members of Congress have been sworn in, and soon there will be a Presidential inauguration. There’s no shortage of news — politically, socially — and no shortage of pundits. So I am emboldened to throw my hat and my … Continue reading Of the people, by the people, for the people (including those with mental illness or HIV)
The court decision legalizing gay marriage is an amazing moment in history. Whatever other problems 21st century life has, I feel privileged to be alive at now. The highest court in the land has affirmed the right of any two consenting adults to marry. I'm elated and I'm slightly amazed; I still remember, when I … Continue reading Good things happen, too
by Jay Mangano Today is my birthday. It also happens to be election day in America. I’ve reached an age where neither of these things mean much to me anymore. I’m not vibrating with anticipation for the fire hose of gifts about to open (a delightful benefit of being an only child). Nor am I … Continue reading Remember to Not Vote
Why does the world dump on teenaged boys? They don’t behave any worse than adults with hormonal abnormalities (that you have to live with, feed, and legally guard). And like other sentient humans, teenaged boys will occasionally surprise you with their spontaneous generosity. A few months ago, my 18-year-old had not only the incredible luck … Continue reading My Teen Got Me Daily Show Tickets! With Puppies.
In the aftermath of the suicide of L'Wren Scott, I was not surprised to find the former NYTimes fashion critic writing of her confusion and anger. Successful, independent, teacher, fighter, grit, endurance, warmth; all were among the words used by Cathy Horyn to describe Ms. Scott. It's the same sort of disbelief that accompanies tragic … Continue reading Nightfall
During a ski trip to Vermont, I once saw a foot and a half of snow come down overnight. Not only was the powdery fluff great--a rarity in East Coast skiing, I'm told--but the roads were not too shabby either. Jersey snowstorms are weirdly torturous. Even when we get quite a lot of snow, it's … Continue reading God Bless Us, Every One
My beloved asked me this week if I had seen the photos going viral of the contestants in the Miss Korea 2013 pageant. Of course he wasn't actually aware that the photos were contestants until I pointed it out. Being Korean himself, he gets his share of Asian pinup girl photos in his inbox and … Continue reading You Had Surgery Where?
I know that houses near rising waters are built on stilts to raise them above flood waters, but I didn't know that when I was six. All I knew was that it was blindingly hot near the beach, and that underside of the beach house was an oasis of shade. My parents, sister, and cousins were vacationing at Beach Haven, on the Jersey shore.
I try to be fun and sentimental in my weekly columns. Occasionally the historic events of the day push their way past any other musings hanging about in my gray matter. Headline news often gives me a reason to ponder many aspects of my life. It should come as no surprise to anyone that the … Continue reading The Race Card